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When was the last time you paused the “doing”?

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My hours, my days, and therefore my life consisted of an uninterrupted sequence of activities. Do, do, do, meet deadlines, improve my productivity, get ahead, and do everything I had to do so that I could, finally, stop. Take a break. Except that nothing was ever finished. Life doesn’t take a break. There is always something else to do.

We spend our time running. Without even knowing after what.

This is where the duality between “doing” and “being” lies. We certainly don’t lack the former. But when do we make time for the latter?

To be is to sit in…

An Instagram page, a YouTube channel, and a podcast

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I ate pastries for breakfast. A delicious, slightly warm pain au chocolat, and half of a brioche filled with custard and chocolate chips. Just a few months ago, this pure and simple moment of pleasure would have been ruined by a thought, which would have popped into my mind just as I was swallowing the last bite.

“My eating day is ruined.”

I would have spent the rest of my day trying to compensate, and thus frustrate myself, or on the contrary, let myself go since “it’s already too late.” …

A surefire way to find your niche(s).

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If you check out my LinkedIn page, you’ll see that I introduce myself as a freelance writer specializing in design and architecture. Here on Medium, I’m focusing more and more on fitness and health. Two worlds, two languages, two identities, two aspects of my work. And two different niches.

Niching down is key to building an audience as a content creator or attracting clients as a freelancer. Consider the Instagram accounts you like the most — don’t they focus on a very specific type of content? This concept is so powerful that it pervades most fields. Think about restaurants. …

Drop the conventions and find what works for you.

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The day my mom asked me what I wanted to do when I grew up, I said I wanted to “create”. I later realized that “creating” is not something I can do for eight hours every day, and that a conventional office nips it in the bud.

Creating is putting experiences and thoughts into a blender, mixing well, and pouring it all out of your being in a shareable form. To pour, you must first fill. …

Sometimes I get tired of writing all this stuff.

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The Internet is full of it. So is your Medium homepage. It’s everywhere. Articles about personal development, life advice, “if you want to get this, do this” stuff. Even though I constantly try to bring my thoughts, reflections, and life experiences to what I write, sometimes I wonder what the point is.

Sometimes I get tired of writing all this. After all, I’m no one. Just a French writer with a degree in journalism and photography.

But then, I remember why I started in the first place. I started writing because I couldn’t not write. And the first ideas that…

The most powerful well-being secret I’ve found so far.

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Happiness is tricky. You can have everything you need — a roof over your head, food on your plate, a job you enjoy, and people you love who love you back — and still not feel happy. Which is frustrating.

The truth is, once you have all the basics down, the rest is a matter of balance.

Over the past few years, I’ve found that a balanced lifestyle allows for a clear mind. And having a clear mind boosts my level of well-being, joy, positivity, and therefore happiness. So of course, there is the fact of paying minimum attention to…

Self-conditioning happens much faster than you think.

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The Universe. Your higher self. Your consciousness. Call it what you will, but know that it listens to everything that comes out of your mouth. Everything you think. Everything you write. In a word: anything that embodies your emotions.

A few years ago, I was forced to go every day to an internship. I hated every minute of it. Every morning I dreaded the moment the alarm clock went off. As I got ready with a weight on my conscience, I would express to my ex-girlfriend how much I didn’t want to go. I grumbled. I complained. …

On ditching the “all or nothing” mindset.

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I work every morning. Without exception, except exception. Sometimes life gets in the way, and thankfully so: the beauty of life lies in its fluidity and unpredictability.

Yesterday morning, I didn’t work. I was sitting on a shuttle bus that was taking me from the Caribbean side of Costa Rica to Alajuela, the airport city. I had wifi. I could have done it. But I just felt that it wasn’t the right place to do quality work. And I’ve learned to accept that skipping a “commitment” is by no means a failure.

I exceptionally used the afternoon to catch up…

Take care of your attention span. Without it, no healthy, quality work can be done.

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There is nonsense to the way most people take their break. Your job involves focusing and staring at a screen. When you spend your break scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, or even Medium, what are you doing?

You’re focusing and staring at a screen again.

The concept of taking a break was born out of a need to recharge your attention span and work capacity. Not to drain it further. To renew your focus, you need to break the cycle. Not to use other valuable attention points (you’ve got only 100, remember?).

“Our brains have two functioning modes: focused, and ‘diffused’…

Here’s the remedy I found.

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One of the reasons I left my hometown to become a full-time traveler was to find the answer to this struggle. I’m on a quest to meet my own presence in the world.

It’s so frustrating. I know I am in the moment. My full attention is here and now. But still.

I feel like I’m dreaming my reality instead of soaking in it.
I feel like it’s all happening in my head.
I feel like I’m only perceiving the present moment through a thin veil.

Does this sound familiar? Here is the remedy I found.

“Wherever you go, there…

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