The Ultimate Technique to Make Decisions

Decisions can be a real struggle

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Decisions can be a struggle. A real struggle. When you finally feel like taking one side, your head fills up with “what if?”, and the other side starts seeming more and more appealing. So you change your mind, and the same process repeats.

You end up feeling like banging your head against a wall.

The whole process becomes even worst when time is pressing. All the possibilities pile up in your head, and you can’t even remember what you wanted in the first place.

I’ve got great news for you.

Gone are this days!

I’m one of those people who often get called undecided. My close circle has even sometimes been really annoyed with this side of me, as when I was taking half an hour to decide between two books (to finally take the two).

But when you’re the undecided one, you feel like you’re doing your best, and you feel helpless. What if I made the wrong decision?

“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another” Deepak Chopra

Over time, I have found out a solution. Something really simple, that will instantly highlight the “right” choice (provided that there’s one). It works as well for big and small decisions.

The Ultimate Technique To Make Decisions

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Ready? Take a white sheet of paper. And a pen. Sit down.

Make two columns. At the top of the first one, write “For”. At the top of the left one, write “Against”. Now, dive in yourself, and find ALL the reasons that could fit in “for” and “against”, even if that’s really small ones, or even dumb ones (there are no dumb reasons, don’t judge yourself).

You need to be totally honest with yourself. That’s the point.

Write for as long as needed, using bullet points to keep a clear structure.

Tips: When you feel out of ideas, wait for 5 more minutes. I bet you will find other reasons, and that’s the point: your reasons will start to grow deeper. The ones written at the end of the exercise are often the more accurate ones because you’ll be well advanced in your introspection.

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Done? Great. Now take a step back, and observe. Read again what you’ve written. Maybe highlight the reasons which seem the most important to you.

If you see a significant imbalance, then you might already have your answer. If not, there’s good news: each side of the decision might be as good as the other. So it’s up to you. There’s no wrong choice. Read again the “For” and the “Against”, decide what matters most to you, and make the choice.

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Full-time traveler, trying to grasp and capture the essence of things in words — I write about life, fitness & food — auriane.alix.medium@gmail.com

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